Emotions

Depressed
Hurt
Angry
Frustrated
Anxious
Ashamed
Guilty
Stressed

Thoughts:

Negative, self-critical: I'm so stupid, I'm worthless, It's my fault, I'm a failure, I'm not good enough, I'm incompetent.
Unhelpful thinking habits might include mental filter, mind reading, self-blame, internal critic, compare and despair, shoulds and musts, black and white thinking

Behaviours

Try to please others
Get defensive when we believe we're being criticised
Under-achieve or work harder to compensate and cover up our incompetence
Shy and passive around others
Avoid situations and people
Neglect or abuse ourselves

An example of how this can keep our self-esteem low:

A cycle diagram depicting a relationship between the beliefs I'm stupid and no good, I'm going to mess up ahgain, Avoid saying what I mean - agree with others - and confirms self beliefs